You are strong (enough) to make the right decisions! Believe it, girl.
No-one is born with a stronger willpower than others. This is a skill that can be taught, and knowing how to develop strong willpower can lead to huge rewards in your life. Just think. about your labour story.
For most of us mums, there must have been a point during either the pregnancy or labour (or both, bless us!) that we had had enough and wanted to yank our bundle of joy out. Or those sleepless nights when you just want to disappear for a day to just get a decent night’s sleep and recharge your batteries. But you didn’t give up (or haven’t given up)!
Making the right choices can be done but you do need to have a little restraint in your life. It is so easy to give into temptations and those little voices that pop into your head from nowhere. The one that tells you it’s okay to have that cookie or that it won’t matter if you skip your exercise today.
When this happens it is an indication that your willpower is lacking. So what can you do to improve this?
Learn to think on your feet
Learning not to make fast decisions is one step in the right direction. If you feel yourself automatically reaching for that cookie then force yourself to stop. Take a step back and think about the consequences of your actions. If you eat that cookie what will happen? How will you feel later? Will eating that cookie place you into a downward swing for the rest of the day?
Think beyond the moment
If you know that you won’t stop at one cookie, is eating it really worth it? Are you prepared to deal with berating yourself for the rest of the day and wishing you hadn’t eaten it instead?
By looking at the consequences you can start to become stronger by making the rightdecision. The right decision may not always be the one you want to take, but it will be the right choice for you. When this happens your willpower is already on its way to becoming stronger.
It does get easier over time
Making a strong choice could be extremely difficult the first time around. However, it will get easier as time goes on. Each time you think about the consequences and take appropriate actions your willpower increases. Eventually you will find that you don’t even have to deal with this way of thinking anymore. You will know immediately the right action to take and it will have become a habit to you.
Get to planning
Another way to become stronger is to simply plan for events ahead of time. If you are going to a party and know they will be serving tempting food choices. Plan in advance what you can eat and won’t you don’t want to eat. Then remind yourself each day prior to the party what you are going to do. This will be instilled in you and you won’t think twice about making a poor choice.
Founder and editor of www.motherswhowork.co.uk, a mother of two wonderful children, wife, entrepreneur (check out www.geekschool.co.uk) and journalist.