This may be the worst time of year for marriage breakups, but it’s always worth sticking it out if possible I trust you didn’t spend yesterday with a divorce lawyer. Thousands apparently did, since it was trumpeted as Manic Monday when everyone resolves to change their life. Most do it with resolutions, diets, job applications and holiday brochures. Divorce lawyers, however, brag of a ?deluge? of calls on this baneful day. Research claiming that matrimonial firms are twice as busy in January emanates from their chirpy website entitled insidedivorce.com, whose subtitle – yeuch! – is ?Winning the life you want?.
Which should act as a warning, if fed-up spouses would only notice it before scrolling down the chirpy checklists on how to find a lawyer, sell the house, book a child psychiatrist and fix a prenup contract before you remarry. That subtitle, frankly, contained every warning you should need. ?Winning? is a happy word for lawyers but not an appropriate one for divorce. Divorce is sometimes necessary but always lousy. Nobody wins. It is a public admission of failure – either you made a stupid decision when you got married, or else one or both of you has deteriorated into a nastier person.