‘How can we stop our son and daughter being enemies?’

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We have a boy and a girl with five years between them, the boy being the older child. While we have tried to treat them the same way, they have been rivals/enemies since they entered their teens. As they are now in their 20s, we had hoped that things might have changed, since they seldom see one another – our daughter has been away at university for three years and our son has his own flat. We had them both home to celebrate a family birthday, and they are still sniping at one another over such petty things as cutting a slice of bread. Does anyone have a solution short of only having one of them home at any one time?

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