Feeling lost in all things motherhood? Do you feel like you’re stuck in a vacuum of school run, work, school run, chores, (little) sleep, then rinse and repeat?
Routine is good, but if you’re really not enjoying life in the process, it’s time for a change. Life really is easier when you know who you really are.
Forget the bills and the reasons why you need to work for a minute – it’s time to do you! Here are some questions to ask yourself to get the ball rolling:
1. What do you enjoy doing?
So you might not be able to forge a career that earns you as much as you want or need with your favourite hobby. But if, out of your love of crocheting beanies or making kitsch scarves (or whatever your favourite hobby is), you can still make time out of your week to do what you really enjoy, imagine what a positive impact that will have on your life.
Sometimes in life, for a season, there are jobs you have to grin and bear. There really is nothing wrong with that. But a life that is unfulfilled will have an impact on your work ethic and yourself. It will start to show eventually that you don’t enjoy what you’re doing and that’s not a good position to be in.
2. What do you like most about your life right now?
Apart from your children, what do you enjoy about your life right now? If you’re struggling to answer the question, that says a lot. Try to cast your mind back to a point when you didn’t have children; what did you like about your life? What did you enjoy most about life at that point? Are any of those likes still relevant to you now? Do you wish they were?
You can also think about what you would like to change about your life today. Are those things still achievable?
3. What’s special about you?
Do you feel special? Most mums put all their energy into making everything special for their children -that whole ‘family comes first’ attitude. The ‘special’ in this question is not about anyone else but yourself.
Do you realise that you’re special? Do you know what makes you special? What are you good at? What do friends and family ask you to help them with all the time – is that your special talent?
Find out what your talents are if you don’t. Ask friends and family what they think you’re good at. Speaking to friends and family can be very insightful and you’ll start to create an awareness for yourself.
These are just three small steps to take to to help you realise your value. There are many more, but the first step is the most important.